The Club Scene: A Practical Guide to Getting Lucky

But what is the table approach you may be asking? Well my ignorant friend, the table approach is a simple technique to maximize your visibility in the shortest period of time. You have already entered the bar and scanned the room. You have received your first drink from the bartender. You have not selected to sit at a table because you have work to do. If you came with buds, let them choose a table and waste their time. Attracting a female is singular work; friends are a hindrance to your success so leave them behind.

You are now ready. All you do is select a table with all females sitting at it. Grab an empty seat, if none are available take on from the adjacent table. Place your drink down and sit. Don't be surprised when you receive looks from every woman at the table wondering what you are doing. You want this to happen. You have their full attention. Smile and introduce yourself. Tell them a little about yourself, nothing that will take an hour to accomplish, a few sentences is enough. Ask the group their names and when they are done, repeat them back to acknowledge them individually. Apologize for interrupting them explaining that you couldn't help but approach them as you don't really know many people at the bar. Then stand up and leave thanking them for their time. If they invite you to stay then smile and thank them. They will ask you a bunch of questions and it is best to tell the truth unless you are skilled at remembering your lies later on after you have had a few drinks.

After the initial few questions excuse yourself unless one of the women has taken a special interest in you. If that occurs give her your full attention without being rude to the others. Smile because you have accomplished your goal right from the start. It will only be your personality and conversational skills that will tank you now. I'll leave the rest to you. But remember; look at her when she speaks to you. Let her dominate the conversation, women love to talk so let her. Seem genuinely interested in what she has to say. Compliment her on her appearance. Women usually spend five times the amount of time that men do getting ready to go out so reward her hard work with encouraging words. If her drink is empty order her another. You are now in the zone dude, congratulations.

If one of the girls doesn't take a special interest, stand up after their initial inquiries by stating you don't want to take up anymore of their time and wish them a pleasant evening. Remember you have other tables to approach. Before you do, replenish your drink, take a piss or occupy a few minutes doing something as you don't want to look too eager.

In between table approaches, make yourself available for the women to approach you. Look at the tables you have finished with to see it any of the women are looking at you. If there are, smile and invite them over for further conversation. If not, approach the next table. Once you have blanketed the room stand in an available area or go reacquaint yourself with your buds, but don't stay too long as you don't want a group of guys to stop a girl from approaching you.

After initial contact any of a number of things will occur. But the most frequent will either be you will notice a girl staring at you or one of them will approach you with a friend in tow. If the first occurs ask her over for further talk. If she waves you over then go. Either way, take the same steps as if you never left the table and she paid special attention to you originally. If the second occurs, you will know which of the girls is interested by the one who speaks first. She will talk to you using her friend as moral support and a critical eye on your behaviour. Don't ignore her friend. As long as she is there she is part of the conversation. If you ignore her she will dislike you and the girl who is interested in you may leave. If you are charming, her friend will leave of her own accord and then you are in.

It may take awhile for an approach from one of the girls to happen. Girls need the inspiration a few drinks entail and some won't approach until they are literally plastered. They may approach to ask you to dance, and if they do, do not refuse. Even if you can't dance very well, a rejection of this sort is worse than a bit of embarrassment on the dance floor. They will even teach you if you ask. Either way they are with you when they are dancing which increases your chances of time spent with them later at their place.

There are two caveats, as we finish with the bar section of the article, that you need to keep in mind. The first is rejection while in the table approach. There are groups of women who earnestly do not want men interrupting their time at a bar. These women will give you a stone cold stare after you introduce yourself. If this occurs, you need to stand up and quickly excuse yourself. Apologize and don't make any rude comments as you leave to save your pride. They will feel guilty for shunning you and one may approach you later after a few drinks to make up for it.

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