The Disposable Relationship

It is so much easier to throw something away than it is fix it when it breaks now isn't it? There is no baggage with something new; you start afresh with no past mistakes rearing up to haunt you. Responsibility is not yet a major factor in this new relationship. It's exciting and new and you can convince yourself that maybe this time the love won't fade.

But what are you losing? Why do you feel so bad? Why is it that with every new relationship you seem to wander into the past and wonder what that guy or girl is doing now? Why does the new person remind you of past ones in so many of his or her actions? Why do you feel such loss? Maybe you don't; maybe the guy or girl was an asshole or bitch and you were glad to get away from them. Maybe you're the type that never takes anything in your life seriously, especially members of the opposite sex.

But then why are so many of us so unhappy if disposable relationships are the new all powerful modus operandi in the 21st century? Sex is casual and means nothing, freedom usurps responsibility and loyalty is a fool's errand and isn't that what we all want? I can choose if I want a child. I can choose if I want to be married. I can choose to have sex with whomever I want. Isn't that what we were all fighting for since the post WWII era?

Then why are so many people unhappy? Why are they complaining about only seeing their kids on weekends? Why are they bemoaning 400 dollars a month in child support? Why are they so upset that their boyfriend left for another woman or their wife doesn't talk to them. Why is taking ecstasy at 15 such a worry for a middle aged parent? Isn't this what freedom is all about?

If you live your life like everything is disposable don't be so surprised if others do the same. You are replaceable as a father, husband, wife and mother in this modern world are you not? Just ask the step-father raising your kids. Just drop the old and embrace the new, join the liberated masses, don't you think?

But when you do have time in your busy life to sit down and think, remember what you will be missing. You will miss the companion that will witness your life; the person that through it all validates your existence. The person that knows you inside and out and accepts you as you are. That person is the comfort in hard times and the cheerleader in good. He or she is the one that loves you throughout your life. Once you find that person never leave for a sympathetic ear, or a pretty face. Stick to it, work it out or eventually you will find that you are truly the loneliest person in the world. And isn't that why so many of us are so unhappy in the first place?

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Article by:
The Ignorant Intellectual

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